...we all are children within, and that 'tis tragedy beyond speaking if that child dies.
Do not think that thou shalt change him, daughter. No woman can ever change a man to become what she doth wish him to be.
Marriage will change him, aye - not all at once, not in the moment the priest pronounces thee wed, not in a month, not even a year, but gradually, little by little, he will change - as wilt thou thyself. Thou canst but hope that he will change more closely to that which thou dost wish him to be.